how to manage your mother UNDERSTANDING THE MOST DIFFICULT, COMPLICATED, AND FASCINATING RELATIONSHIP IN YOUR LIFE Alyce Faye Cleese & Brian Bates

1. Remember your mother's age.
2. Listen to your mother.
3. Remember that your mother has a past.
4. Ask your mother simply and directly how you can make her life better.
5. Ask your mother about your childhood history.
6. Get to know your mother's extended family.
7. Decide what personality traits you share with your mother.
8. If you find your mother difficult, confront the issues that divide you.
9. Keep a sense of humor about your mother.
10. Remember that managing your mother is really about managing yourself.

Our mother will always live inside us, whether she is causing a fuss or quietly helping our progress through life.

We need someone to love,
We need someone to hate,
We need someone to survive,
We need someone to blame.

Our mother can fit each of these needs. The book might help us improve our relationship with our mothers - and choose love.

As with all other books on relationships, it’s about changing ourselves. However i highly recommend this book for its writing style, sensibility and usefulness. 4-and-a-half stars.